The brave, rare question my Introvert clients ask in session; How do I make friends?
This question is asked quietly with eyes averted.
From where I sit, I can feel the shame and embarrassment that came into the room as the question was asked.
When I hear this question in my office, it breaks my heart just a bit for a few reasons
It’s a really brave question to ask as there is so much stuff that comes up when we are in need of better connections. When we don’t have friends, we likely aren’t feeling good about ourselves.
And we are told making friends is easy; just go talk to somebody, ask them out for coffee, a hike, bike ride…
But as introverts, we don’t fit with just anybody. We have to feel a connection in order to spend time with people. So if we don’t find our people, we are on our own.
And if do find our people, sometimes we don’t believe that they would want us as a friend so we don’t try to make a connection.
I also want to honour how it can be really hard to reach out when we are in a low place.
Now you might be wondering when I’m going to get to it and tell you the step by step process to follow to make friends. And I do have one, it just might not be exactly what you are expecting.
4 Steps to make friends as an Introvert
This list may seem obvious and simple but I’m guessing as you read this, your brain is shouting why these will never work. I get it, I’ve been there. And I know that it can be different.
The next question that may show up for you is; but what about social anxiety?? I’ll address that in next week’s blog.
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