What will people think if I can’t handle this relationship anymore?
Is there something wrong with me that I no longer want to work on the relationship?
Did I do enough? Did I try hard enough?
These are common thoughts that Highly Sensitive People and Empaths struggle with when they no longer want to be in a relationship.
By the time they get to the point of leaving they are often exhausted, worn down, worn out, and can’t really think clearly. They only know that they are deeply unhappy and no longer want to feel like this and live like this.
This is how I felt too just before I told my husband that I was done.
I tried so hard. Like really, so hard. But he told me that I wasn’t doing enough. So I worked harder. And then again, and again, and again he told me this. And one day, I just couldn’t do it anymore.
Even with all my therapy skills and understanding of toxic relationships, here I was in a relationship that was only draining me. I was a therapist that couldn’t make her marriage work.
This has been a humbling experience in so many ways.
So, let me tell you – you did work hard enough. Likely you have been working way too hard.
Ending relationships does not mean that you have failed. Sometimes it’s the only thing that can be done.
Healing happens when we listen to our suffering and decide that is what matters, even if our partner doesn’t agree.